Shout out to all the closeted LGBT people who have to return to unsafe family environments this season. Remember that there is nothing wrong with you and that no, you are not a hypocrite for loving the people who raised you despite the things they have done to hurt you. Above all remember that you will always have friends who support you even if your family does not.
"are there any characters you don’t headcanon as queer?”
why would i want to do a thing like that
yeah let’s keep on eroticizing homosexuality it’s such a blast
you hear that guys I a queer person am fetishizing queer people by desperately searching for representation in a world where I have pretty much none why didn’t any of you guys tell me
You are history’s greatest monster.
Problems with FCKH8:
- According to their own FAQ, they’re a for-profit company. Allegedly, they have given about $250,000 to “directly funded projects” and “LGBT charities.” They do not say which projects and charities (always a bad sign), though according to Bilerico, one of them is the Trevor Project.
- Their product categories uphold the gender binary and use ageist and sexist terms. Additionally, nearly all their models are white, and the rest are still very light-skinned. And their women’s sizing only accommodates rather small women; probably a lot of transwomen would not be able to wear the more feminine shirts, especially if they’ve had top surgery.
- They’re co-opting the anti-gay crisis in Russia as an excuse to sell merchandise. And that merchandise isn’t even in Russian—it’s a Cyrillic transliteration of “gay okay.” Moreover, they’re trying to send pro-gay coloring books to Russia, which will just get kids’ parents taken away from them, if the books make it into Russia at all.
- They’ve made promotional videos where they make small children gratuitously say “fuck.” Because brand-name recognition. Some of these children appear to be less than 6 years old, and nearly all appear heavily coached.
- That same video erases all queer issues except marriage, adoption, and military service. In a video whose title is about bullying, anti-gay bullying gets less coverage than marriage. It also features extremely offensive caricatures of transwomen, the worst one involving a black transwoman, and hypersexualizes gay men, and uses slurs like “faggot,” “homo,” and “lesbo,” in a decidedly non-reclamatory context.
- The rest of their videos are much the same, and are frankly so offensive, juvenile, and stereotype-filled that they would probably turn me into a homophobe if I weren’t actually queer.
- On Facebook, FCKH8 erased and mocked asexuals (and less directly, the entire rest of the acronym), told someone pansexuality was fake, and then blatantly misused the word genderqueer. And of course, haven’t apologized.
- They also stereotyped all religious people as haters and all priests as pedophiles.
- They overprice their products. Moreover, on sitejabber.com, numerous reviewers complain that they never received their orders—many after more than three months of waiting—or that it took over 5 months to get their orders. For one person, it took 2 years. (Oddly enough, someone from FCKH8, whose screen name is “Ryan S.”, started spam-replying about having fixed the site, and that the company is not “selling a logo.” I’m not going to test the former statement, but I’m pretty sure the latter is a lie, so….) And the company still takes people’s money, of course.
- They’ve stolen people’s art on numerous occasions. Often the victims are queer artists. At least one (blackandyellowdoodles) is someone I follow on Tumblr, and I’d seen his original art long before FCKH8 used it; they only changed the color to purple and slapped a logo on it.
In the interest of ever doing any of my homework this week, I’m not going to list anything more. It would be rather redundant anyway.
A summary that just wouldn’t stop growing as I wrote it:
- Generally only focusing on gay men despite calling themselves an LGBTQ group.
- Perpetuates images of ‘sassy gay men' across their websites.
- Their posts featuring lesbians often show hot, young, white, feminine girls kissing, thus continuing the image of sexualized lesbians (and teenage girls in general) rather than focusing on inequality or any sort of intersectionality.
- Basically never focusing on trans*, pan, ace or gender-queer people at all.
- But when they do mention trans* people, boy do they heck it up. (tw: misgendering)
- Casual cissexism everywhere.
- Supports Dan Savage, who is notoriously biphobic, transphobic, ace-hating, fat shaming, racist and ableist and just generally a horrible person. (Again, focuses on gay white men and no one else.)
- Also supports Family Guy, despite its history of being offensive to basically everyone.
- Also a bit of Lady Gaga in there too. (Issues with Lady Gaga)
- Uses quotes from cishet people rather than people who are actually queer, and then only quotes from gay people who are white/cis/able-bodied/etc (lots of Ellen Degeneres and Neil Patrick Harris).
- Many of the images shared on their Facebook and tumblr are taken without permission or notification from people’s blogs (you only have to scroll down their facebook to see all the tumblr screen caps with their logo slapped on top.)
- When asked to remove these by the original posters, the people running the pages become immature and rude.
- Also stealing ideas and selling them.
- The entire Russian gay colouring book debacle which has the potential to do massive amounts of harm to innocent people in Russia.
- Lots of micro-aggressions, such as using ‘gays' and the whole idea of “no labels just human!”
In addition, their way of advertising using young children can be seen as questionable and people have also pointed out their exclusion of POC and the use of sassy/angry black people as jokes (being white I can’t really comment on this, but I’m sure there are more examples).
How much of their profit is actually getting donated is also a question nobody can really answer.
On a much lesser note, people also have taken issue with their customer service. Definitely not as important, but a nice little fact to end on.
It also speaks wonders that I could find nearly every example needed in this answer by scrolling through the ‘FCKH8’ tag and their facebook and tumblr posts from the past week alone. These are all current and continuing issues that aren’t looking to be solved any time soon.
Sexuality as grounds for asylum remains a very contested area and it has its fair share of horror stories. Until a few years ago, the Czech Republic was still testing male applicants’ ‘gayness’ by hooking their penises up to a machine and showing them straight porn: any hint of an erection and asylum was denied. It also emerged recently that the UK has been ordering gay asylum seekers to ‘prove’ their sexuality, and accepting homemade pornography as evidence.
Germany, too is far from a leading light in these regards. A ruling made last year effectively ordered an Iranian lesbian, Samira Ghorbani Danesh, back into the closet, saying that she could avoid persecution in Iran (where the death penalty exists for homosexuality) if she only behaved discreetly. (After an appeal, she was eventually allowed to remain.) An advocacy group for gay rights, ILGA Europe, scored the German asylum system poorly in their most recent report, noting that they don’t provide any training or guidelines on how to deal with gays escaping persecution. Joël Le Déroff of ILGA says that while we await a pan-European ruling from Brussels, the outcome of individual cases can depend on the judge."
Luke Atcheson, “From Russia with [Gay] Love”, Exberliner Nov 2013
meanwhile: “Gays can seek asylum in the European Union when threatened with jail for same-sex activity, but only when such persecution is “sufficiently serious”, Europe’s top court ruled on Thursday. […] As well as leaving scope for different treatment across the EU’s 28 member states, the court also said it was “not reasonable” for asylum seekers to have concealed their homosexuality in their countries of origin if pressing claims on the grounds of persecution.” (AFP)
what a joke, it’s “unreasonable” both to try to live openly and to be too scared to do so - all these west europeans are so outraged that people (naively) believed all their talk about promoting lgbt rights abroad meant they actually care about lgbt people
lesbian pulp fiction was huuuuuuuge cottage industry during the 1950s, 1960s - know your history, know that same-gender women existed before Stonewall and all that
but the novels wouldn’t be published unless, very explicitly and in text a woman DIED or was sent to an asylum because that was what loving another woman did. you deserved that punishment.
and like, can you imagine the lesbians of the 1950s, of the 1960s and this is literally the only available depiction they can see of themselves. because women who loved women bought these novels, desperate for connection.
and people kept writing us dying.
and still do
i feel very iffy when people do the whole “but they’re so young, they don’t know what they’re doing” thing when a young teenager is being homophobic (or racist, or terrible in some other way, but i can only speak about homophobia)
when other lgbq people defend young homophobes, i can’t help but think they ~discovered themselves~ or came out quite late because when i was at that age i couldn’t excuse the homophobia of my peers just because they were young (like me!), and i feel like these people forget that lgbq kids and teenagers exist; even if we as adults should now be able to forgive or ignore the homophobia of 14-year-olds, we can’t expect the same of young lgbq people, and you’re pretty much implying they don’t deserve to feel safe and valuable because they’re so young, which is very shitty of you
similarly, when allies do that, to me it sounds like they’re just trying to downplay their past homophobia because they feel guilty
that said, it’s absolutely repulsive how certain “allies” handle these things: telling someone to kill themselves is always wrong, and throwing a fit ≠ education – you’re not helping either