therothwoman:

chocolatecheatcode:

Canada’s response to Russia’s ban on “gay propaganda” via Brilliant Ads 

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"Let’s say you’re like a 17 or 18-year-old kid and you’ve recently come out of the closet and you maybe have a girlfriend or maybe you don’t. You’re like “I’m a lesbian, now what?” And you find this podcast and your friends have listened to it and whatnot. And there’s a narrator that can offer you a little bit of hope and comfort, like you have the potential to have a happy normal life and relationship out there in this crazy, insane world where nothing is certain."
Cecil Baldwin, on how WTNV affects queer community (interview here)

damamgedinvestigator:

allbecauseoftheboys:

Dear Mom and Dad,
This is what happiness looks like. Sorry you were so miserable in your own lives that you couldn’t allow me a chance at my own. I went out and found it anyway. I miss you, and will miss you even more this holiday season since you won’t allow me to come back home unless I have a woman on my arm. Oh by the way, we’ll still be using the family recipe for the stuffing, I’m sure it’ll be a hit with our friends.
Happy Holidays, Your son, his boyfriend, and our spoiled cat

this deserves a million notes omfg

damamgedinvestigator:

allbecauseoftheboys:

Dear Mom and Dad,

This is what happiness looks like. Sorry you were so miserable in your own lives that you couldn’t allow me a chance at my own. I went out and found it anyway. I miss you, and will miss you even more this holiday season since you won’t allow me to come back home unless I have a woman on my arm. Oh by the way, we’ll still be using the family recipe for the stuffing, I’m sure it’ll be a hit with our friends.

Happy Holidays,
Your son, his boyfriend, and our spoiled cat

this deserves a million notes omfg

slowmovingpanic:

Shout out to all the closeted LGBT people who have to return to unsafe family environments this season. Remember that there is nothing wrong with you and that no, you are not a hypocrite for loving the people who raised you despite the things they have done to hurt you. Above all remember that you will always have friends who support you even if your family does not.

annlarimer:

victorhugofuckyourself:

whitedenimjacket:

victorhugofuckyourself:

"are there any characters you don’t headcanon as queer?”

why would i want to do a thing like that

yeah let’s keep on eroticizing homosexuality it’s such a blast

you hear that guys I a queer person am fetishizing queer people by desperately searching for representation in a world where I have pretty much none why didn’t any of you guys tell me

You are history’s greatest monster.

A message from Anonymous
i agee FCKH8 seems pretty stupid to me, but what about them is actually harmful? they just seem like some gay hipsters who maybe dont take their work seriously enough...
A reply from mediocre-latinist

Problems with FCKH8:

  • According to their own FAQ, they’re a for-profit company.  Allegedly, they have given about $250,000 to “directly funded projects” and “LGBT charities.”  They do not say which projects and charities (always a bad sign), though according to Bilerico, one of them is the Trevor Project.
  • Their product categories uphold the gender binary and use ageist and sexist terms.  Additionally, nearly all their models are white, and the rest are still very light-skinned.  And their women’s sizing only accommodates rather small women; probably a lot of transwomen would not be able to wear the more feminine shirts, especially if they’ve had top surgery.
  • They’re co-opting the anti-gay crisis in Russia as an excuse to sell merchandise.  And that merchandise isn’t even in Russian—it’s a Cyrillic transliteration of “gay okay.”  Moreover, they’re trying to send pro-gay coloring books to Russia, which will just get kids’ parents taken away from them, if the books make it into Russia at all.
  • They’ve made promotional videos where they make small children gratuitously say “fuck.”  Because brand-name recognition.  Some of these children appear to be less than 6 years old, and nearly all appear heavily coached.
  • That same video erases all queer issues except marriage, adoption, and military service.  In a video whose title is about bullying, anti-gay bullying gets less coverage than marriage.  It also features extremely offensive caricatures of transwomen, the worst one involving a black transwoman, and hypersexualizes gay men, and uses slurs like “faggot,” “homo,” and “lesbo,” in a decidedly non-reclamatory context.
  • The rest of their videos are much the same, and are frankly so offensive, juvenile, and stereotype-filled that they would probably turn me into a homophobe if I weren’t actually queer.
  •  On Facebook, FCKH8 erased and mocked asexuals (and less directly, the entire rest of the acronym), told someone pansexuality was fake, and then blatantly misused the word genderqueer.  And of course, haven’t apologized.
  • They also stereotyped all religious people as haters and all priests as pedophiles.
  • They overprice their products.  Moreover, on sitejabber.com, numerous reviewers complain that they never received their orders—many after more than three months of waiting—or that it took over 5 months to get their orders.  For one person, it took 2 years.  (Oddly enough, someone from FCKH8, whose screen name is “Ryan S.”, started spam-replying about having fixed the site, and that the company is not “selling a logo.”  I’m not going to test the former statement, but I’m pretty sure the latter is a lie, so….)  And the company still takes people’s money, of course.
  • They’ve stolen people’s art on numerous occasions.  Often the victims are queer artists.  At least one (blackandyellowdoodles) is someone I follow on Tumblr, and I’d seen his original art long before FCKH8 used it; they only changed the color to purple and slapped a logo on it.

In the interest of ever doing any of my homework this week, I’m not going to list anything more.  It would be rather redundant anyway.

A message from Anonymous
hey what did fckh8 do?? i heard that theyre shit but i dont really know
A reply from sociallyinadequate

A summary that just wouldn’t stop growing as I wrote it:

In addition, their way of advertising using young children can be seen as questionable and people have also pointed out their exclusion of POC and the use of sassy/angry black people as jokes (being white I can’t really comment on this, but I’m sure there are more examples).
How much of their profit is actually getting donated is also a question nobody can really answer.

On a much lesser note, people also have taken issue with their customer service. Definitely not as important, but a nice little fact to end on.

It also speaks wonders that I could find nearly every example needed in this answer by scrolling through the ‘FCKH8’ tag and their facebook and tumblr posts from the past week alone. These are all current and continuing issues that aren’t looking to be solved any time soon.

Here’s a new blog that’s documenting a lot of the shit they do, if you want more receipts and updates.

221cbakerstreet:

nentindo:

this isn’t even a campaign. this is some 17 year old teenager sitting at his computer while eating spicy doritos with a call of duty headset on

oh my fucking how is this even real

"As someone who identifies as gay, I remember growing up and going to the bookstore and going to the gay and lesbian section and thinking to myself, “This is it. This is what we have. This one shelf. That’s it.” And, you know, we have some short stories, and we have some history, and stuff like that, but you know, like, the fiction all centered around being gay. Like, it was defined by that. And so, I think what I hear a lot from the fans, and I share their sentiment, is, here is something where being gay is just one aspect of a much larger world that we live in. And that world is beautiful, and terrifying, and insane, and funny, and it just fits in there, and for me, being a gay artist, working on a show like this, like, I like gay stuff, gay stuff is cool, but I mean, you know, so many times I see independent films and and independent books and they’re writing the “Oh, this is gay fiction.” Well, what does that mean? Like, does that mean you have to be gay to read it? Do you have to be gay to write it? Like what? I don’t understand…Like, just one aspect of Cecil is his sexuality. And, on top of that, in this crazy world of Night Vale, his sexuality and his relationship with another man is the least weird thing to happen on a daily basis. And it really makes me feel so good to think back on where I was when I was like fifteen, sixteen and thinking “Yes, this is it.” Like, we’re making it. We’re pushing boundaries out, and saying, “This isn’t a gay podcast. We’re not gonna check your card at the door.” I love that."
soundmindsoundsoul:

thiseternaloptimist:

bisexual-community:

gigifantasy:

My parents told me I could be whatever I wanted to be when I grew up … They didn’t tell me if I wasn’t straight they’d kick me out on the streets though.

That’s what I fear about my parents doing…


Here are some resources:
PFLAG (International)
Hetrick Martin Institute (NYC)
The Ali Forney Center (NYC)
Albert Kennedy Trust– UK
Diversity Role Models–UK
Rainbow Rooms – UK
Push Project – UK
BLAH LGBT Youth – Norfolk, UK
LGBT Youth Northwest – UK
LGBT Youth – Scotland
LGBT Cymru Helpline – Wales, UK
Covenant House – Latin America
Dream Bridge Exchange – Toronto
Michael Causer Foundation – Liverpool
Camden LGBT Forum – London
LGBT Jigsaw – London
Twenty 10 – Australia
Youth Project – Nova Scotia
Minus 18 Youth – Australia
Misc. Youth – Calgary 
LGBT Ungdom – Denmark
Rainbow Youth – New Zealand
Youth Line – Ontario 

Resources for anyone who might need them.

Important, guys.

soundmindsoundsoul:

thiseternaloptimist:

bisexual-community:

gigifantasy:

My parents told me I could be whatever I wanted to be when I grew up … They didn’t tell me if I wasn’t straight they’d kick me out on the streets though.

That’s what I fear about my parents doing…

Here are some resources:

Resources for anyone who might need them.

Important, guys.

staythatswhatimeanttosay:

staythatswhatimeanttosay:

In case you are a fan of same sex unions, weddings in general, or are just really itching to know what I look like (or my wife, as I haven’t posted a picture of her yet [she’s the adorable one in the suspenders]) here’s the promised wedding picture spam.

Best day of my life. 

Okay, but see here’s the thing. I want all of you to understand this thing:

I posted these wedding photos because this was the most amazing day of my life. I’ve been married for about two months, and goddammit, it has been just the best, you know? Like, this woman, in these photographs? She’s incredible. She’s unreal. She’s kind and she’s thoughtful and she’s everything I never thought I deserved. She’s the woman who I get to spend the rest of my ridiculously lucky life with.

It’s so simple to me, to us.

But it’s so complicated to so much of the world. She and I can’t walk into the grocery store holding hands. I get tight-lipped when someone compliments my ring at work because I can’t determine if they are going to be “cool” with it or not. If they’ll report me for being “inappropriate” in our online survey. Again. My wife was fired from a job as a driver for a children’s occupational therapist because her boss saw us kiss at the mall— because she couldn’t have “that kind of person” around children. I walked myself down the aisle at my wedding because a church told my parents that it wasn’t possible for them to attend my wedding.

And we’ve had it so easy! Our lives have been blissfully carefree compared to so many. We have the most amazing friends and family and life is pretty fucking sweet.

But here’s the thing I wanted to tell you. This post I made, to try to just share my little square of happiness with my little square of the internet, has literally tens of thousands of notes. Tens of thousands. I’ve gained hundreds of followers and my inbox runneth over. And not a single message I’ve received, not a single reblog that I have been able to find, has had anything to say but amazing, beautiful, kind words of congratulations. No bullying. No trolling. No inappropriate offers or lewd remarks. Out of tens of thousands.

That’s not something I’m used to. It’s not something anyone in the LGBTQ community is used to.

Do you even get how amazing you are? You, the denizens of Tumblr. Do you understand that? I am so exceedingly proud of you, you wacky kids. You are all such incredible people, with such kind and open hearts, and I wish I could hug each and every one of your necks. 

So if you are having any sort of rough day, please know that there is this tiny lesbian couple in northeast America who likes you just a whole lot, okay? You’ve overwhelmed us. 

Thank you. We love you.

"

Sexuality as grounds for asylum remains a very contested area and it has its fair share of horror stories. Until a few years ago, the Czech Republic was still testing male applicants’ ‘gayness’ by hooking their penises up to a machine and showing them straight porn: any hint of an erection and asylum was denied. It also emerged recently that the UK has been ordering gay asylum seekers to ‘prove’ their sexuality, and accepting homemade pornography as evidence.

Germany, too is far from a leading light in these regards. A ruling made last year effectively ordered an Iranian lesbian, Samira Ghorbani Danesh, back into the closet, saying that she could avoid persecution in Iran (where the death penalty exists for homosexuality) if she only behaved discreetly. (After an appeal, she was eventually allowed to remain.) An advocacy group for gay rights, ILGA Europe, scored the German asylum system poorly in their most recent report, noting that they don’t provide any training or guidelines on how to deal with gays escaping persecution. Joël Le Déroff of ILGA says that while we await a pan-European ruling from Brussels, the outcome of individual cases can depend on the judge.

"

Luke Atcheson, “From Russia with [Gay] Love”, Exberliner Nov 2013

meanwhile: “Gays can seek asylum in the European Union when threatened with jail for same-sex activity, but only when such persecution is “sufficiently serious”, Europe’s top court ruled on Thursday. […] As well as leaving scope for different treatment across the EU’s 28 member states, the court also said it was “not reasonable” for asylum seekers to have concealed their homosexuality in their countries of origin if pressing claims on the grounds of persecution.” (AFP)

what a joke, it’s “unreasonable” both to try to live openly and to be too scared to do so - all these west europeans are so outraged that people (naively) believed all their talk about promoting lgbt rights abroad meant they actually care about lgbt people

(via poesizing)

win-king-skeever:

friendlyangryfeminist:

lesbian pulp fiction was huuuuuuuge cottage industry during the 1950s, 1960s  - know your history, know that same-gender women existed before Stonewall and all that

but the novels wouldn’t be published unless, very explicitly and in text a woman DIED or was sent to an asylum because that was what loving another woman did. you deserved that punishment.

and like, can you imagine the lesbians of the 1950s, of the 1960s and this is literally the only available depiction they can see of themselves. because women who loved women bought these novels, desperate for connection.

and people kept writing us dying.

and still do

adayinthelesbianlife:

The Butch Stance, early 1960s, Lesbian Herstory Archives

adayinthelesbianlife:

The Butch Stance, early 1960s, Lesbian Herstory Archives

kuunakullanvalkeana:

i feel very iffy when people do the whole “but they’re so young, they don’t know what they’re doing” thing when a young teenager is being homophobic (or racist, or terrible in some other way, but i can only speak about homophobia)

when other lgbq people defend young homophobes, i can’t help but think they ~discovered themselves~ or came out quite late because when i was at that age i couldn’t excuse the homophobia of my peers just because they were young (like me!), and i feel like these people forget that lgbq kids and teenagers exist; even if we as adults should now be able to forgive or ignore the homophobia of 14-year-olds, we can’t expect the same of young lgbq people, and you’re pretty much implying they don’t deserve to feel safe and valuable because they’re so young, which is very shitty of you

similarly, when allies do that, to me it sounds like they’re just trying to downplay their past homophobia because they feel guilty

that said, it’s absolutely repulsive how certain “allies” handle these things: telling someone to kill themselves is always wrong, and throwing a fit ≠ education – you’re not helping either