the-oncoming-drizzle:

picklesych:

We have our own week! (Jumps for joy!) We have our own week! (Shouts it from a mountain top!) Asexual awareness week is from October 20th - October 26thAsexuality is an umbrella term for people who are not sexually attracted to anyone.Feel free to help spread the word of Asexuality Awareness Week, even if you are not Asexual.For ideas on how to spread the word of Asexuality Week, please visit www.asexualawarenessweek.com

we have a week??? aww yissss maybe i’ll contact the uni lgbt* society and see if they’re up for doing something

the-oncoming-drizzle:

picklesych:

We have our own week! (Jumps for joy!) We have our own week! (Shouts it from a mountain top!)

Asexual awareness week is from October 20th - October 26th

Asexuality is an umbrella term for people who are not sexually attracted to anyone.

Feel free to help spread the word of Asexuality Awareness Week, even if you are not Asexual.

For ideas on how to spread the word of Asexuality Week, please visit www.asexualawarenessweek.com

we have a week??? aww yissss maybe i’ll contact the uni lgbt* society and see if they’re up for doing something

therothwoman:

feministcrixus:

adriofthedead:

pearlsfromthewest:

remedyormemory:

(via The Asexual Spectrum: Identities In The Ace Community (INFOGRAPHIC))

On my wish list for the ace community: moarrr graphics!

wow a clear and concise infographic about the asexuality spectrum on huffpost?


Useful because my education on asexuality is still pretty lacking.


This is handy.

therothwoman:

feministcrixus:

adriofthedead:

pearlsfromthewest:

remedyormemory:

(via The Asexual Spectrum: Identities In The Ace Community (INFOGRAPHIC))

On my wish list for the ace community: moarrr graphics!

wow a clear and concise infographic about the asexuality spectrum on huffpost?

image

Useful because my education on asexuality is still pretty lacking.

This is handy.

So, you want to be an ally to asexuals? Here’s how!

bite-my-glittery-arse:

1. Remember them in talks about minority groups! That “A” does not stand for allies, it stands for Asexuals! Include them.

2. Make your blog a safe space for them! Tag and warn for sexual, tmi, and nsfw content. Ask them if anything you post bothers them.

3. Do not assume that everyone is sexual. Do not make blanket statements about sex. This leaves out asexual people.

4. Don’t ask them rude questions about being asexual. Questions such as “Are you broken?” “Have you gone through a trauma that caused this?” Read up about asexuality before asking them questions about their identity.

5. Don’t send them tmi questions without an OK from them first, even if it is tmi Tuesday.

6. Don’t claim to know all about asexuality because you knew someone once, or read 1 post. You aren’t the expert on their sexuality, they are.

7. If the question you have is generic, try looking at a blog about asexuals first, or try googling it. If that does not answer your question, but sure to be polite when asking.

8. Remember the PoC asexuals. Remember the intersectionality of asexuals. This is important.

9. Be sure to be there to them to vent about sexual people and their oppression. Don’t cry “we aren’t all like that!” Listen. Be kind. Support them.

10. Stand up for them. Call people out when they bash asexuals, don’t let them trash your asexual friends. Even if your friend is not present, stand up for them!

11. If you are holding a meeting of some sort, for gay people or trans*gender people, include asexuals. Ask them what the sexuals can do to make it safer for them. On one of the meeting days, give them a chance to have a voice with how their gender or sexuality or any other identity relates to being asexual. LET THEM HAVE A VOICE.

Again, feel free to reblog and add on more. If I got anything wrong or said anything offensive, let me know and I will fix it.

fuckyeah-sexpositivity:

The rebloggable version, by request!
[Text: Anonymous asked: “Why are you posting asexual stuff on a SEX POSITIVE blog”
fuckyeah-sexpositivity answered: “Because, dear anon, sex positivity does not mean erasing or shaming the experiences of those who are asexual. 
Actually, I think we need to have this conversation. 
I actually am of the mindset we need more perspectives of asexuality within the sex positive movement. Because there’s an all too common mantra within our movement that goes, “Sex is beautiful and natural and everyone wants to have sex so it’s nothing to be ashamed of!” 
And I agree, sex is nothing to be ashamed of. But there’s one little detail there: not everyone wants sex or gets pleasure from it. They’re roughly 1% of the population. And with 7 billion people on the planet, 1% equals 70,000,000. Seventy million people is a lot of experiences to erase. 
So, roughly 70,000,000 people on this planet don’t want sex. Or they want sex in certain contexts. Or they kind of sometimes want sex but not often. Or they have sex to satisfy a partner, but don’t get much out of it for themselves. Or they have a sex drive, just… not towards other people. Or they can’t stand the thought of sex. 
And that’s okay too. 
Sex positivity for me is accepting that whether you have sex a lot, or you never have sex, whether you have a million kinks or you can’t stand sex outside the missionary position, whether you are gay, straight, bisexual, pansexual, omnisexual, sapiosexual, autosexual, objectumsexual, or asexual, the way you look at sex and attraction is valid and normal, as long as it’s not hurting anyone. 
So that is why I am posting asexual content on a sex positivity blog. And that is why I will continue to do so.”] 

fuckyeah-sexpositivity:

The rebloggable version, by request!

[Text: Anonymous asked: “Why are you posting asexual stuff on a SEX POSITIVE blog”

fuckyeah-sexpositivity answered: “Because, dear anon, sex positivity does not mean erasing or shaming the experiences of those who are asexual. 

Actually, I think we need to have this conversation. 

I actually am of the mindset we need more perspectives of asexuality within the sex positive movement. Because there’s an all too common mantra within our movement that goes, “Sex is beautiful and natural and everyone wants to have sex so it’s nothing to be ashamed of!” 

And I agree, sex is nothing to be ashamed of. But there’s one little detail there: not everyone wants sex or gets pleasure from it. They’re roughly 1% of the population. And with 7 billion people on the planet, 1% equals 70,000,000. Seventy million people is a lot of experiences to erase. 

So, roughly 70,000,000 people on this planet don’t want sex. Or they want sex in certain contexts. Or they kind of sometimes want sex but not often. Or they have sex to satisfy a partner, but don’t get much out of it for themselves. Or they have a sex drive, just… not towards other people. Or they can’t stand the thought of sex. 

And that’s okay too. 

Sex positivity for me is accepting that whether you have sex a lot, or you never have sex, whether you have a million kinks or you can’t stand sex outside the missionary position, whether you are gay, straight, bisexual, pansexual, omnisexual, sapiosexual, autosexual, objectumsexual, or asexual, the way you look at sex and attraction is valid and normal, as long as it’s not hurting anyone. 

So that is why I am posting asexual content on a sex positivity blog. And that is why I will continue to do so.”] 

cybermat-herder:

nicoleloi:

comealongsherlock:

strawberrykiwilemonade:

the-nard-cat:

I’m glad someone finally said it. Me and Leo laughed so freaking hard when we heard about this “sexuality.” The things people will come up with for attention these days, its sad. And no argument or story or message will ever convince me that this is a legit sexuality, ever, so don’t waste your time.

I find this nauseating. Who the hell gives someone else the right to determine whether someone else’s sexuality exists or not?
Asexuals are not “attention seeking.” 
Asexuality is not a “lack of sex drive.”
Asexuals aren’t “just scared of sex.”
There is nothing wrong with being asexual.
Ugh this is frustrating me and I can’t form coherent thoughts because I am frustrated and somewhat triggered and ugh. 
I don’t understand people. It’s not up to you to police other people’s sexuality. 
(Sorry if this didn’t make any sense, I’m just extremely frustrated and tired.)



I can’t believe that someone can be this ignorant and insensitive. There is a wide variation in the spectrum of sexuality, and it’s fluid, not fixed. There is nothing “wrong” in asexuals’ brains, just like there’s nothing wrong in lesbians’ brains or gays’ brains. There’s just something different. Yes, humans are wired towards reproducing, but that doesn’t mean that ALL humans in the history of Earth were. What makes this person think that asexuals have never existed? Just because they’ve never heard of a historical example?
Saying that asexuals are just scared of sex is akin to saying that lesbians just need a good fuck. And what that leads to is “corrective rape”. And that is beyond wrong.

Okay here’s a historical example straight from my ethics class. St Thomas Aquinas, both a Catholic saint (obviously) and a Thomistic philosopher following Aristotle’s school of thought became part of the Dominican Order early in his life, which, frankly rather pissed off his family. His folks ended up holding him in his home, trying to keep him from from becoming part of the Order, going as far as hiring prostitutes to seduce him basically to tempt him away from celibacy and, therefore, kind of disqualifying him. 
It was said that he was blessed by God with the ‘gift of asexuality’ (this is what my professor said, considering it was one of the first times I heard the word “asexual” said in real life not by me, and by a teacher at my college teaching us different schools of philosophy and telling us about their strongest proponents, it kind of stuck with me) so he could resist the temptation his family put him through.
I probably botched the story because I take bad notes, but yeah, uhm, yeah, it exists in history. Sorry.

I think an argument can also be made that T. E. Lawrence (“of Arabia” fame) was probably ace. Another example.
There’s probably a ton of examples, actually. Also, here’s a prime example of an asshole: the-nard-cat. See also “loser,” “dumbass,” and “ignorant douche-canoe.”

cybermat-herder:

nicoleloi:

comealongsherlock:

strawberrykiwilemonade:

the-nard-cat:

I’m glad someone finally said it. Me and Leo laughed so freaking hard when we heard about this “sexuality.” The things people will come up with for attention these days, its sad. And no argument or story or message will ever convince me that this is a legit sexuality, ever, so don’t waste your time.

I find this nauseating. Who the hell gives someone else the right to determine whether someone else’s sexuality exists or not?

Asexuals are not “attention seeking.” 

Asexuality is not a “lack of sex drive.”

Asexuals aren’t “just scared of sex.”

There is nothing wrong with being asexual.

Ugh this is frustrating me and I can’t form coherent thoughts because I am frustrated and somewhat triggered and ugh. 

I don’t understand people. It’s not up to you to police other people’s sexuality. 

(Sorry if this didn’t make any sense, I’m just extremely frustrated and tired.)

I can’t believe that someone can be this ignorant and insensitive. There is a wide variation in the spectrum of sexuality, and it’s fluid, not fixed. There is nothing “wrong” in asexuals’ brains, just like there’s nothing wrong in lesbians’ brains or gays’ brains. There’s just something different. Yes, humans are wired towards reproducing, but that doesn’t mean that ALL humans in the history of Earth were. What makes this person think that asexuals have never existed? Just because they’ve never heard of a historical example?

Saying that asexuals are just scared of sex is akin to saying that lesbians just need a good fuck. And what that leads to is “corrective rape”. And that is beyond wrong.

Okay here’s a historical example straight from my ethics class. St Thomas Aquinas, both a Catholic saint (obviously) and a Thomistic philosopher following Aristotle’s school of thought became part of the Dominican Order early in his life, which, frankly rather pissed off his family. His folks ended up holding him in his home, trying to keep him from from becoming part of the Order, going as far as hiring prostitutes to seduce him basically to tempt him away from celibacy and, therefore, kind of disqualifying him. 

It was said that he was blessed by God with the ‘gift of asexuality’ (this is what my professor said, considering it was one of the first times I heard the word “asexual” said in real life not by me, and by a teacher at my college teaching us different schools of philosophy and telling us about their strongest proponents, it kind of stuck with me) so he could resist the temptation his family put him through.

I probably botched the story because I take bad notes, but yeah, uhm, yeah, it exists in history. Sorry.

I think an argument can also be made that T. E. Lawrence (“of Arabia” fame) was probably ace. Another example.

There’s probably a ton of examples, actually. Also, here’s a prime example of an asshole: the-nard-cat. See also “loser,” “dumbass,” and “ignorant douche-canoe.”

hidingoutfromitall:

hail-seitan:

How to be an asexual ally.

- Educate yourself and others about asexuality. 
- Speak up if you hear an asexual being ridiculed or harassed for their orientation.
- Explicitly include asexuality and its related identities in sexual orientation-focused groups, workshops, discussions, etc.
- Don’t automatically assume that everyone you meet is sexual, even if they seem perfectly comfortable talking or writing about sex.
- Respect a person’s self-identity and refer to them by whatever labels (or lack thereof) they apply to themselves.
- Don’t ask highly personal questions about a person’s sexual feelings or experiences, unless you are close enough to the person that you know such questions would be acceptable.
- Don’t tokenize an asexual person by expecting them to be the spokesperson for all things asexual.
- Recognize that asexuals may have varying degrees of comfort with discussions of sex; some asexuals may be very uncomfortable with it, others may be completely fine with it and may even enjoy flirting or making sexual jokes just for fun. If you’re not sure where someone’s boundaries are, ask them.
- Correct misconceptions about asexuality if you hear someone expressing them.
- Don’t assume anything about an asexual’s romantic orientation, or about their past or present sexual experiences (or lack thereof).
- Cultivate a vision of sex-positivity in which not wanting sex is just as valid and affirming as wanting it. 

Ask if an ace wants cake at a tea party.

Signal boost, signal boost.