fuckyeah-sexpositivity:

The rebloggable version, by request!

[Text: Anonymous asked: “Why are you posting asexual stuff on a SEX POSITIVE blog”

fuckyeah-sexpositivity answered: “Because, dear anon, sex positivity does not mean erasing or shaming the experiences of those who are asexual. 

Actually, I think we need to have this conversation. 

I actually am of the mindset we need more perspectives of asexuality within the sex positive movement. Because there’s an all too common mantra within our movement that goes, “Sex is beautiful and natural and everyone wants to have sex so it’s nothing to be ashamed of!” 

And I agree, sex is nothing to be ashamed of. But there’s one little detail there: not everyone wants sex or gets pleasure from it. They’re roughly 1% of the population. And with 7 billion people on the planet, 1% equals 70,000,000. Seventy million people is a lot of experiences to erase. 

So, roughly 70,000,000 people on this planet don’t want sex. Or they want sex in certain contexts. Or they kind of sometimes want sex but not often. Or they have sex to satisfy a partner, but don’t get much out of it for themselves. Or they have a sex drive, just… not towards other people. Or they can’t stand the thought of sex. 

And that’s okay too. 

Sex positivity for me is accepting that whether you have sex a lot, or you never have sex, whether you have a million kinks or you can’t stand sex outside the missionary position, whether you are gay, straight, bisexual, pansexual, omnisexual, sapiosexual, autosexual, objectumsexual, or asexual, the way you look at sex and attraction is valid and normal, as long as it’s not hurting anyone. 

So that is why I am posting asexual content on a sex positivity blog. And that is why I will continue to do so.”] 

cybermat-herder:

nicoleloi:

comealongsherlock:

strawberrykiwilemonade:

the-nard-cat:

I’m glad someone finally said it. Me and Leo laughed so freaking hard when we heard about this “sexuality.” The things people will come up with for attention these days, its sad. And no argument or story or message will ever convince me that this is a legit sexuality, ever, so don’t waste your time.

I find this nauseating. Who the hell gives someone else the right to determine whether someone else’s sexuality exists or not?

Asexuals are not “attention seeking.” 

Asexuality is not a “lack of sex drive.”

Asexuals aren’t “just scared of sex.”

There is nothing wrong with being asexual.

Ugh this is frustrating me and I can’t form coherent thoughts because I am frustrated and somewhat triggered and ugh. 

I don’t understand people. It’s not up to you to police other people’s sexuality. 

(Sorry if this didn’t make any sense, I’m just extremely frustrated and tired.)

I can’t believe that someone can be this ignorant and insensitive. There is a wide variation in the spectrum of sexuality, and it’s fluid, not fixed. There is nothing “wrong” in asexuals’ brains, just like there’s nothing wrong in lesbians’ brains or gays’ brains. There’s just something different. Yes, humans are wired towards reproducing, but that doesn’t mean that ALL humans in the history of Earth were. What makes this person think that asexuals have never existed? Just because they’ve never heard of a historical example?

Saying that asexuals are just scared of sex is akin to saying that lesbians just need a good fuck. And what that leads to is “corrective rape”. And that is beyond wrong.

Okay here’s a historical example straight from my ethics class. St Thomas Aquinas, both a Catholic saint (obviously) and a Thomistic philosopher following Aristotle’s school of thought became part of the Dominican Order early in his life, which, frankly rather pissed off his family. His folks ended up holding him in his home, trying to keep him from from becoming part of the Order, going as far as hiring prostitutes to seduce him basically to tempt him away from celibacy and, therefore, kind of disqualifying him. 

It was said that he was blessed by God with the ‘gift of asexuality’ (this is what my professor said, considering it was one of the first times I heard the word “asexual” said in real life not by me, and by a teacher at my college teaching us different schools of philosophy and telling us about their strongest proponents, it kind of stuck with me) so he could resist the temptation his family put him through.

I probably botched the story because I take bad notes, but yeah, uhm, yeah, it exists in history. Sorry.

I think an argument can also be made that T. E. Lawrence (“of Arabia” fame) was probably ace. Another example.

There’s probably a ton of examples, actually. Also, here’s a prime example of an asshole: the-nard-cat. See also “loser,” “dumbass,” and “ignorant douche-canoe.”